Beard During Avel: Grooming Through the Jewish Mourning Periods
How to care for your beard through shiva, shloshim and the twelve-month mourning period, with practical grooming steps and where to ask your rabbi.
Until now, Jewish men grooming resources have been virtually nonexistent. Browse any major grooming publication, scroll through any men’s lifestyle site, and you’ll find detailed guides for nearly every demographic imaginable — except for Jewish men navigating the intersection of halacha, tradition, and modern personal care. That gap was unacceptable to us. This section exists because we built what should have existed a long time ago: a dedicated, knowledgeable, respectful resource for Jewish men who deserve grooming guidance that actually reflects their lives.
One of the most immediately distinctive aspects of grooming for observant Jewish men is the care and styling of pe’ot — the sidelocks, commonly called payot, mandated by the Torah’s prohibition against “rounding the corners” of the head. Pe’ot are not monolithic. A Yemenite man may wear long, tightly coiled ringlets that fall in front of the ears, while a Hasidic man might cultivate longer, flowing curls tucked behind the ear or left to hang freely. Proper pe’ot care involves moisture management, detangling without breakage, and in many cases, techniques for enhancing or maintaining curl definition. We cover all of it, without treating these traditions as curiosities.
Beard practices vary significantly across Jewish communities, and understanding that diversity is essential to meaningful Jewish men grooming guidance. Haredi men in many traditions maintain full, untrimmed beards as a matter of deep religious significance, often citing kabbalistic reasons rooted in the Zohar. Ashkenazi practices differ across congregations, with some communities permitting careful trimming and others discouraging it strongly. Sephardic authorities have historically offered somewhat more permissive rulings on beard maintenance in certain respects, though this varies by posek and community. The halachic question of razors versus electric shavers is one of the most practically important in Jewish men’s grooming: because the Torah’s prohibition is understood to apply to blade-against-skin contact, many halachic decisors permit certain electric shavers that cut through a screen mechanism, functioning more like scissors than a blade. Navigating these distinctions requires reliable information, and we provide it without oversimplifying the nuance.
Seasonal observance also shapes grooming routines in meaningful ways. During Sefirat HaOmer — the 49-day counting period between Passover and Shavuot — many Ashkenazi and Sephardic men refrain from shaving and haircuts as a sign of mourning, with specific days of permitted grooming varying by community custom. We address how to maintain skin and beard health during extended no-shave periods, so men can honor observance without neglecting their skin.
Perhaps most importantly, this section recognizes that Jewish men are not a single demographic with a single hair type or skin tone. The Jewish world encompasses Ashkenazi men with fine, straight, or wavy European-textured hair; Sephardic and Mizrahi men with thick, curly, or coily Mediterranean and Middle Eastern textures; Yemenite men whose hair and features reflect the Arabian Peninsula; and Ethiopian Jewish men with tightly coiled Type 4 hair requiring its own specific care approach. Each community brings distinct needs to the grooming conversation. Our commitment is to serve all of them — knowledgeably, respectfully, and completely.
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